Terry - Thanks for such a thoughtful reflection and push back. Totally hear you and on some days, right there with you. But . . . beyond even the Presbyterian things, I have had too many friends/colleagues that have found that the PC(USA) is not a place they can be fully who they are as GLBT pastors. I very much understand that need to NOT have to be fighting all the time. And while I am not sure that those who are talking about new structures would see themselves in the same light, I do know that there are many who feel like they are now in a place where they cannot be who God is calling them to fully be.
When it comes to Presbyterian rifts, I have to trust that people are discerning God's calling on their lives as individuals and congregations. If they should choose to leave, we find gracious AND just ways to honor the past, present and future of particular place. Yes, I grieve when a church chooses to live, but at the same time, if relationships hamper any growing into who God intends, then I can rest in the hope that some realignment will free all of us.
My two cents.